FRIENDSHIP OR LOVE?!?

MaNy of us aRe sO caUght up wid ouR daiLy lives, dat we often negLect oNe of the important peopLe we have... nOt just ouR famiLies (although yes they are very important) but oUr freNds…. Many coupLes feaR and hOpe dat they aRe nOt negLecting their betteR haLves,,, but few wonder if they are neglecting their friends... And even if they feel that they are not doing a great job keeping up with their friends, they just shrug and say…. well, it can't be helped.
BUt what we shouldn't forget is that we should not underestimate the importance of friendship../ Make it a point to stay in touch with friends, even if you can do so using your cellphone… Text oR call them every now and again to find out if everything is all right, and to let your friends know that although you are busy, you still think of them and will be there for them if they ever need you. They are not rock bottom on your list of priorities.

You have to remember that your needs are also important….

Don't lose sight of yourself when looking after your better half. Don't make yourself last on your list of priorities, because you are only making yourself more vulnerable and weaker. Also if you take good care of yourselves, your special someone will have a more fulfilled person for a partner, which is healthier for the relationship. …

I know that saying it is easier that doing it but not making sure that everything is well balanced can lead to a more complicated situation. A situation that can lead to circumstances that could have been prevented in the first place….

...to FaLL iN LoVE...

Love...

Its a when a warm embrace feel so right
... or when two hands fit snuggly
...it's a feeling that's hard to define but easy to recognize
...and when you find that comfort..you just know,you'll never let go.
...everybody in this world is scared.And sometimes it takes two scared persons to do one brave thing...

TO FALL IN LOVE

..a matter of decision..

There will come a point in one’s life that Love will no longer be a Feeling, but a Decision.

The love that was once there will always be there, it will never be gone, it will never be away. But the decision NOT to love the person in the same way will cause that Love to fade… And you learn to love the person a little less each day.

Until one day, you find that the Love you once had is already unrecognizable.. Yes, it’s still called Love, but now it’s already a different kind of Love, no longer like the one you used to have.

And it’s all because of that decision you made…

The decision to love that person a little less. And the decision to love yourself a little more.

~GETTiNG OVER~

"Getting over" someone or something is NOT a "state of being"…
It is a process.

One cannot simply ‘get over’ the loss of dearly beloved,
one cannot simply ‘get over’ the pains from a previous relationship,
one cannot simply ‘get over’ the joys and memories shared with a special friend…

"Getting over" is NOT "Totally Forgetting"…
"Getting over" is "Selective Remembering"…

You choose to forget those parts of your life which has caused you pain, and choose to remember those that had given you strength…

"Getting over" is a process to Healing…

One cannot totally forget memories, for there will always be that SOMETHING which will make you remember…

*LesSons*

>>>"i am whoLe nOt bcOz of anOther peRson being in my Lyf but bcOz i am aLready fuLfiLLed on mAh own & i bcOme even moRe compLete as i LeaRn tO impaRt myseLf tO a speciaL sOmeOne.. "

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>>>"reAdy tO oPen mY wiNgs aNd fLy agAin...'

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>>>dOn’t let uR heaRt run uR Life.. be senSibLe and let uR miNd speAk foR itself.. liSten nOt onLy tO uR feeLings but tO reasOn as well... oLweiz remember that if you lOse sum1 tOday, it means that sum1 betteR iS cOming tomorrOw.. if you lOse lOve, it dOesn’t mean that you have faiLed in LOVE... cRy if you have to,,, but mAke suRe that teaRs waSh awAy the huRt and the bitteRneSs that the paSt leFt you with...=) let gO of yesteRdAy and lOve wiL fiNd itS wAy bAck tO yOu... and when it dOes, pRay that it mAy be the lOve thAt wiL STAY and LAST A LIFETIME…

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>>>"accept the fact that there are some things you can’t have.. BUT there are MANY things that are nOw within youR haNds.. and YOU should be thankfuL of that...=)

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>>>"to be able tO lOve sum1 and lOved by sum1 is sOmewhat the beSt thing in the worLd.. it's true that we tend tO feel mOre bLesSed being lOved by sum1, when they say WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND.. it's actually the same as when YOU LOVE SOMEONE, OTHERS WILL LOVE YOU BACK.. it's as bLessed when YOU lOve sum1 oR vice versa..."

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>>>"OTHER TIMES SAYING GOODBYE IS NOT THE END.. if the HARD things is over, its riLy EASY TO LET IT GO but if not… i believed GOD has anOther gift and shOuld LEARN fRom what u hAve NOW.. aLL tAkes TIME, WAIT FOR YOUR TURN, GOD NEVER BEEN UNFAIR… =) life iS like a stAge fRom oNe step tO another…."

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>>>"yOu dOn't hAve tO be RIGHT nOr be PERFECT just be GOOD.. "

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>>>"sUmtyms we nid tO expeRrieNce eveRything sO dAt we wud LeaRn.. deRs nO eaSy wAy in Living Lyf sO Live it aS it iS.. cRy, LaUgh, be cRAzy & dOn’t miSs tHe chaNces dAt Lyf iS giviNg tO uS cOz d moSt impOrtaNt things aRe nOt things @ aLL.. mOst of d tYm dey aRe PEOPLE mAking oUr Lyf woRth LiviNg…"

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>>>"...iF yOu can't hAndle mE at my worst, you dOn't deserve me at my bEst..."

~ When you break up, your whole identity is shattered. It's like death. ~

~ The scars you can't see are the hardest to heal. ~

~ They say that time heals all wounds but all it's done so far is give me more time to think about how much I miss you. ~

~ Turn your wounds into wisdom. ~

~ I expanded with the joy of your love and presence but now that you're gone I just feel bloated. ~

~ Invisible tears are the hardest to wipe away. Just let it out, my friend. ~

~ Breaking up is a natural evolution when you try to figure out what you want in life. If you're with an individual who isn't moving in the same direction and at the same rate that you are, it ain't going to work. ~

~ It is foolish to tear one's hair in grief, as though sorrow would be made less by baldness. ~

~ You left, and my heart is a ceaseless sermon of loneliness. ~

~ Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again, skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts. ~

~ God is closest to those with broken hearts. ~

~ When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal. ~

~ The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends. ~

~ The heart is the only broken instrument that works. ~

~ Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water. ~

~ Most things break, including hearts. The lessons of life amount not to wisdom, but to scar tissue and callus. ~

~ When the heart grieves over what is has lost, the spirit rejoices over what it has left. ~

~ It isn't enough for your heart to break because everybody's heart is broken now. ~

The art of war is simple enough. Find out where your enemy is. Get at him as soon as you can. Strike him as hard as you can and as often as you can, and keep moving on. ~

~ A graduation is a small but significant tradition that I think everyone should take part in. What a great way to symbolize a part of your journey and to represent your thoughts for moving on. ~

~ Moving On has allowed me to know who I am and to be present in all that I do. I take this forward in my work and in my personal relationships. It is a powerful program and I highly recommend it to anyone wanting to move on with their life. ~

~ If someone you love hurts you cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it. ~

~ Letting go doesn't mean giving up... it means moving on. It is one of the hardest things a person can do. Starting at birth, we grasp on to anything we can get our hands on, and hold on as if we will cease to exist when we let go. We feel that letting go is giving up, quitting, and that as we all know is cowardly. But as we grow older we are forced to change our way of thinking. We are forced to realize that letting go means accepting things that cannot be. It means maturing and moving on, no matter how hard you have to fight yourself to do so." ~

~ Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can't prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you're presented with and moving on. No matter where you are in life, no matter what your situation, you can always do something. You always have a choice and the choice can be power. ~

Moving On

~ Sometimes the cards we are dealt are not always fair. However you must keep smiling & moving on ~

~ Moving on, is a simple thing, what it leaves behind is hard. ~

~ To be able to move on, one has to learn to forgive not only the person (or people) who have done one wrong but also oneself ~

~ By forgiving and choosing to move on, one takes the power back to morph it into positive energy. ~

~ Life is about making the right decisions and moving on. ~

~ Forgiveness and letting go are steps on our road back to happiness. ~

~ You are responsible for your life. You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on. ~

~ Take a second out to think about this: in your life you search and search for the right person for you. Every time you break up with someone you get one step closer to that person. You should look at moving on as getting closer to meeting the one. ~

~ Quietly forgiving and moving on is a gift to God ~ and yourself. ~

~ When you start to abandoning your old beliefs or values... you may be stuck at the threshold for two or three years. Before moving on, you have to clear away your cherished beliefs. ~

~ Courage is not the absence of fear, but simply moving on with dignity despite that fear. ~

Stop planning your life and let it plan itself. Quit trying to find the perfect boy and let him find you. If you don't want drama, then don't talk shit. Things are only as complicated as you make them.